Name a character that you’d like to have for a friend.
Goodness. That’s a tall order.
I think there are different types of friendships. Maia knew the truth of it at the end of The Goblin Emperor, when he told Cala and Deret Beshalar that while they couldn’t be the type of friends many people thought of and had, they could have a friendship, because they cared for each other.
In the 3D world, we are faced with the reality of 2D friendships — those that we have with people we’ve only met online, but with whom we have a deep connection. I still am amazed at how much my life has been enriched by the fannish relationships I’ve been lucky enough to experience, or smart and empathetic enough to forge, online.
(And I’ll add here that the ability to forge 2D friendships has been enabled, in my opinion, by traditional science fiction/fantasy fandom; friendships in that fandom were themselves forged in fanzines, LOCs, and the oh, so occasional meetups at cons or club meetings.)
I love being able to tell those (now thankfully few) people who unthinkingly say “Oh, really good friendships can’t happen online” that they are wrong. Wrong, wrong, stupidly wrong.
Do some 2D friendships end quickly, nourished only by one shared interest? Sure; so do 3D friendships; how many of you have drifted away from the friends with whom you shared a passionate interest in stamps, cooking, Spanish literature or Xbox games from 10 years ago?
(Not to mention friends with whom you shared a love of a book or television series ….)
Some 2D friendships are brief, but heartfelt. Some are longstanding, but very casual. Some are longstanding and heartfelt.
They’re all friendships; no one should dismiss them for any reason whatsoever.
And just like that, I’ve veered off the beaten path of the question and into the brambles of my own ramblings.
I’m confident that you, my friends and friendly acquaintances, understand me well enough to roll your eyes in a friendly fashion and let me go on.
Still, I should probably try to retrace my steps and consider the question a little more.
I will, however, stick to my central caveat; with so many types of friendships, how can I figure out what characters would provide what kind of friendship?
One thing is very important, though: no matter what type of friendship we talk about, I think it has to be a two-way street. If you consider yourself a friend to someone who doesn’t consider themselves your friend, then you’re just a fan of theirs. If someone considers themselves your friend, while you don’t think of them as a friend … you’ve got a stalker.
I kid, I kid.
But only just.
Alright, kaffyr, enough shilly-shallying. Take the damned plunge.
Characters who I’d like to have as friends: Maia Drazhar, Cala Athmaza and Csevet Aisava (and possibly Csethiro Ceredin, although I’m a little afraid of her.) River Song, who I should feel afraid of, but I’m not. Jo Grant. The Ninth Doctor. The Twelfth Doctor. The Thirteenth Doctor and every one of her fam. Natasha Romanoff. Bruce Banner. Wanda Maximoff, who definitely needs a friend. Silver, even if he’s dangerous. Sapphire, ditto. Cordelia Naismith Vorkosigan (why am I attracted to dangerous women? Don’t know, don’t care, I just hope I could be a worthy friend.) Ivan Vorpatril and his feckless cousin (or is it the other way around?)
And that’s enough for tonight.
Before signing off, and in the spirit of this particular meme answer: Bob and I had a wonderful brunch with an old friend, gerisullivan, a couple of weekends ago. I think it's perfectly apropos to mention that, and show you the lovely picture the waiter took of the three of us. We know her because of old school SFF fandom; it's a 3D friendship but it's with someone who understands 2D friendships very well.
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